An accidental death brings a mix of trauma, grief, guilt, anger, despair and loneliness. It is a space one arrives at in a flicker of time, that changes the lives of all those involved in profound ways. It can be an extremely lonely place to be. The usual resources and support available to those who are grief stricken or experiencing trauma, somehow don't seem to fit those who are responsible for an accidental death, as blame, shame, anger and condemnation, whether real or imagined, often surrounds those responsible for the death.